Just a Thank You is that asking too much!

[rmonks]

It being the Christmas Season always puts me in the mood to help and give to those in need. I recently printed shirts for a High School band about a $600 order.  I got wind that they were having difficulty raising the money to pay for them. So me being the good guy I am, I give them the shirts NO CHARGE. To this day not a person in the Band or at the School has as much as said THANK YOU
Guess im from the old school

[jsheridan]

So you gave something away expecting something in return and get upset when you got nothing..

That is called a covert contract

Next time give from the heart and expect nothing in return, you'll feel better.

[Socalfmf]

I Still call BULLSH*T on that one John...where is the FU*KING respect these days...I was raised to say thank you and please..I raise my kids that way..heck we just moved  and the neighbor brought over cookies ( they were awesome btw ) and a little Christmas wreath and we sat down and had the kids make a card and we all brought it over...that is what people do..they say thank you!..

that is one of the problems with our nation right now...it is give me give me give me...

sam

[mk162]

gotta side with sam on that one.  maybe they should bring back those old videos on politeness and hygiene.  instead kids get sex ed AFTER they have already learned all about it on the internet and sent/received tons of sexts.

Yup, we're doing a great job.

One of Ava's first words was thank you...and she knows please really well.

[ScreenFoo]

You may want to double check that nobody is continuing to collect money and/or acting as if you've already been paid.  Sounds a little fishy to me.

I'll say it though--thanks for helping out the band.  I would have been stoked if anyone had done such a thing when I was in high school.

[GraphicDisorder]

You may want to double check that nobody is continuing to collect money and/or acting as if you've already been paid.  Sounds a little fishy to me.

This.

[inkman996]

that is one of the problems with our nation right now...it is give me give me give me...

I think Sam had a seizure.

I side with John, never give with expecting something in return, otherwise what is the meaning of giving?

Tho I do agree it is sad to not get some type of acknowledgment

[ebscreen]

You gotta remember, band nerd types, aspergery, not so good with the social skills etc....
from a former band nerd....

[whitewater]

You know...maybe they dont know you gave them to them...

I donated shirts to the girls basketball coach here..he said make sure i put my logo on the back with " Shirts provided by:" ..he said if i didn't everyone would just assume the school bought and paid for them..which he is correct.

My 70 year old father in law in Texas said when he does anything nice he doesnt expect anything in return...he says thats how it is nowadays....it is pretty sad...


You know rmonk..i bet they just dont know you did that..

[mk162]

he didn't expect a gift in return, he expected a thank you.  My neighbor gets really pissed if you don't say thanks.  I agree with him.  It's made me even more aware of saying thanks.

[Sbrem]

I really don't see a problem with him being disappointed in not being thanked, it's really a slap in the face. The coach or whomever received them and passed them out shout should have let everyone know that someone did something for them for no good reason other than helping out. It happens here all the time, do a favor for a customer, and no mention or thank you, like it's expected. Of course, it doesn't make me stop helping, but it does confirm my belief that deep down inside, people suck. I'm old school too I guess (probably because I'm old)

Steve

[mavgraph]

There should still be a thank you. Yes, it is true to give a gift without receiving anything in return, but common courtesy dictates a thank you. Manners have gone out the window these days.

[Gilligan]

I really don't see a problem with him being disappointed in not being thanked, it's really a slap in the face. The coach or whomever received them and passed them out shout should have let everyone know that someone did something for them for no good reason other than helping out. It happens here all the time, do a favor for a customer, and no mention or thank you, like it's expected. Of course, it doesn't make me stop helping, but it does confirm my belief that deep down inside, people suck. I'm old school too I guess (probably because I'm old)

Steve

Yep, I'm agreeing with Sam and the conservative bunch on this one.

He's not even asking for the "Thanks", he's merely saying he's disappointed he didn't get one.  Even if it is semi-flipped scenario and someone gives you a cookie for FREE... would you not still be disappointed inside if it was burnt or tasted awful?  You may not have a right to be "mad" about it, but you can certainly be disappointed!

I never look a gift horse in the mouth.

Another example is my mother who used to be super awesome when I lived at home (not that she's not super awesome now though).  She used to bring me a plate of food after she cooked, UPSTAIRS.  She didn't have to do that.. I ALWAYS said "thank you".  Now the ironic part is that she would never bring me a drink.  So then I had to go downstairs anyway, this was not a complaint in anyway.  It just didn't make sense for her to waste her time.  She could have just yelled "supper's ready" and I would have been just as happy.  But how can you explain that to the woman that just brought you up a plate of hot delicious food?

Speaking of kids... my 2.5 year old just asked my wife to get her one of the chocolate covered donuts from this morning (given to us, and I said "thank you") and when my wife said "sure" she immediately said "Thank you" in her all too cute manner.  But that is because we have taught her that.

Hell, I say Ma'am and Sir, please and thank you to the drive through people at Taco Bell.  Just because they are slinging terrible food for minimum wage doesn't mean they don't deserve the same respect I would give anyone else!

[Socalfmf]

really?  Gilligan and I agreed on something?  it must be 12-12-12

aahhahahdhhahahahahah

[rmonks]

Yeah they all 60 of the kids knew they were free, and I'm not mad I was simply amazed that not a one said thanks , I guess it is just the way it is now days.