Get the Pastels & Neons Solid Coated book, it has some shades that you may be looking for.
I share your frustration as well with this,
also want there to be more cool grays, the Pantone blacks are too dark, and Cool Grey 11 doesn't go dark enough in some cases.
But honestly could also live with less Pantones, give me a book of just good colors.
"The Good Book"